Karen Trifiletti, MA is a Philadelphia-born convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, single mother of two, writer, and non-profit business professional.
When my best efforts seem miniscule in standing as the Savior’s witness or in mothering my children, or in serving in the workplace, or in life in general, I am always reminded by the Savior, Jesus Christ, that they are not so in His eyes. They matter to Him. My efforts, your efforts, our clumps of dandelion-deeds that we bring Him day by day, to please and glorify Him, are known to Him. and appreciated by Him. I feel that. I hope you feel that, and that if you don’t, you’ll dig deeper to find Him. Jesus Christ, the Son of God, wants to be found. He wants you to know you are known by Him.
I remember a time as a young mother of two, feeling the incessant demands–sometimes sweet, sometimes screechy–of little ones beckoning for food, shelter, stories, sleep, cuddles, drinks, more food, diaper changes, help, love, learning, attention, and more. Sometimes it was as if the surround sound of those little lives was turned up and drowning out my ability to hear myself think. While I loved and love being a mother, I remember temporary moments of fatigue and faint-heartedness in the midst of that glorious calling producing life’s greatest joys. One afternoon, after putting my little ones down to nap; I collapsed on the couch and the small set of scriptures (which I could then read), called for some attention. On this occasion, they seemed to fall open to the gospel of Matthew. I found myself reading the account of Jesus Christ and the disciples on the shore of Galilee.
The multitude that always gathered round Him, had been taught. But they weren’t leaving. Not yet. They were hungry. Jesus may have been as well. The apostles were eager to shew them away, thinking their job was done or wanting some respite perhaps for the Savior Himself, who just earlier that day had lost his dear friend and cousin, John the Baptist. Nonetheless, the Savior bid the crowd stay. He knew the clinging of needy children, and understood the cries and the desires for spiritual and physical food. He fed the multitude. Interestingly, the apostles left the stage then. And the Savior tarried to finish up. Only then, after all of that, did the Savior Jesus Christ depart and find a place apart, to be alone.
I marveled at what I read, anew with fresh eyes. Jesus Christ knew my experience. He knew what it was to be continually surrounded by those beckoning for care and healing hands. He knew what it was to be tired, and to provide. He even knew, I thought to myself in a casual sort of way, what it’s like to be the last one out of the kitchen. He was the last to leave the dinner table and the dinner. I bet He cleaned up. He knew me, He saw me, He loved me that afternoon. He knows you, He sees you, He loves you today.
As a Friend: He Sees Us, He Knows Us
As disciples of Jesus Christ, as Latter-day Saint women (“nicknamed Mormon women”), as Christian women, we want to be there for others, to bear their burdens, to speak the right words, to know that we are led by the Lord as we strive to be on His errand. The other day I felt prompted to make a phone call to a friend, recently widowed. I caught her in, in spite of her working several jobs, tending to selling her car, and her interviewing schedule for a better position. I asked what she might need and how things were going. She ended up telling me that she’d interviewed twice for a teaching position in a particular school district and needed some help identifying where she was in the process of re-certification. She just hadn’t the time to pull that together and wanted to share that with those screening her. In a small way, I was able to help her. The next day, I received, as I read my scriptures, an affirmation that the Lord, Jesus Christ, knew that my heart was inclined towards Him. He knows your efforts to be a friend. Not one is missed. He has seen you and seen those today.
He knows when we’ve given “all” our living–not just financially–but emotionally, spiritually, socially. Just as he saw the unnamed widow’s offering, he sees ours, in unlit arenas and unmarked pages of our lives. They are marked in the Savior’s book of life. In the compelling, inspired words of a living apostle of Jesus Christ,
No matter where you live, no matter how humble your circumstances, how meager your employment, how little your abilities, how ordinary your appearance, or how little your calling in the Church may appear to you, you are not invisible to your Heavenly Father. He loves you. He knows your humble heart and your acts of love and kindness. Together they form a testimony of your fidelity and faith.
As His Children
Recently, in the 181st Semi-Annual Conference of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (nicknamed Mormons), a living apostle of Jesus Christ, Dieter F. Uchtdorf, addressed a global audience of members and friends of other faiths invited to participate. He reminded us that we are not forgotten. Elder Uchtdorf said the following about our place in God’s plan:
The most powerful Being in the universe is also the Father of our Spirits.
We are everything to God. We are the reason God created the universe. … We have the incomprehensible promise of exaltation (eternal life with God and the redeemed of His children), worlds without ends, within our grasp and it is God’s greatest desire to help us reach it.
Satan intends to focus our sight on our insignificance until we begin to doubt that we have much worth. He tells us that we are too small for anyone to take notice. He tells us that we are forgotten–especially by God. … [But we are not forgotten.]
The Lord doesn’t care at all if we spend our days working in marble halls or stable stalls. He knows where we are, no matter how humble our circumstances. He will use in His own way, and for His holy purposes, those who incline their hearts to Him.
At times we may feel insignificant, invisible, alone, or forgotten. But always remember: You matter to Him.
Just as the Lord Jesus Christ rewarded the unnamed widow with everlasting remembrance in our hearts, and in His, so will He reward our personal service to Him with His appreciation and the power and beauty of His presence.
I bear witness that it is true, as recorded in the Holy Bible, and as a modern apostle attested to us in the recent October gathering of The Church of Jesus Christ available to all the world, “The eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good” (Proverbs 15:3). He sees the good you do; He knows you; He loves you. And He will help us overcome whatever is left.
Living out a great season of my life, thanks to Jesus Christ, and two wonderful daughters, a great life's work. Loving this opportunity to share faith online... I'm a single Mom, convert to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, second-gen Italian, from the East coast originally. Love the fine arts, dance, frozen yogurt, temples, scriptures, writing, jazz, helping others reach their potential, king salmon, ....and not in that order. God is good. I feel it deeply when people have a misconception of Heavenly Father or Jesus Christ, His Son, that lessens or cheapens Them and blinds one's ability to feel His presence or to trust in an ultimately good eternal end to life's circumstances.